Living with Wild Abandon: or, the Bad Boy appeal —

So, why is it that us girls are drawn so irrevocably to boys that will, in many respects, never be enough? 

It’s an age old question, surely.  Generally speaking, most girls mature faster than boys beginning at a younger age.  Usually, we are more dedicated to our studies (note that I am speaking from my own experience and I am not making claim that this logic can be applied in every specific situation), pursue more academic or creatively stimulating extracurricular activities rather than, say, sports, and have a deeper comprehension of responsibilities and consequences.

Why then, is it, that we are drawn to boys that can have a negative impact on many aspects of our lives?

I grew up sheltered.  I grew up in an environment where school was important, where partying and drugs were extremely taboo, and where taking a road that guaranteed my future success was the talk of the town beginning in early childhood.

At 19,

I broke bad–

And at 20, I married a bad boy.  I was in a foreign country far from the judgmental eyes of my relatives.  (Not to say that they didn’t grow fond of my husband when they met him – that is, until he made some major mistakes that my mother is still hard pressed to get past.)  I partied (hard), danced at least every weekend (if not every night), exchanged Chopin for electronia and illegal raves, dropped out of uni (ok, there were other circumstances surrounding this situation, but I’ll address that in future), shipped off to Tenerife with my boyfriend of 2 months, got a molossoid dog…basically, I did everything I was raised not to do.

No, I do not claim that my husband made me do these things – or even influenced me.  However, his accepting presence did make it easier for me to live with wild abandon.  The fact that he loved and supported my craziness without any sort of judgment granted me the freedom I had never felt was possible.

But why do girls go for bad boys?



8 thoughts on “Living with Wild Abandon: or, the Bad Boy appeal —

  1. Oh yes! Your advice is true.
    But, bad boys are just undeniable and exciting.
    Why do we put ourselves through that, again and again?
    Its like we dont even WANT to learn from that particular mistake. 😛

    Well written. 😀


  2. I really like how you’re not condemning choosing the bad boy, it makes the post come across in a wonderfully reasoned and balance way. I would say that you could do with looking at your placement of commas in the first few paragraphs. The grammar just didn’t seem to flow just right when I was reading it, and the use of tense threw me a little as well. I couldn’t work out if this was supposed to be in past tense or present.
    The dialogue gave you a great dimension however. Coupled with how concise the post was it created this fantastic, snappy post that kept my attention right the way through and left me wanting to read more of your work. It’s a great example of blogging done well in my opinion.


    1. In condemning choosing Mr. Bad Boy, I would be condemning myself!

      As for the comma-splicing…thank you for pointing that out. My brain is rather disordered, so I can imagine that my writing comes across in that manner at times as well. Also, Italian has become my “first language” over the past 5-6 years, so what I think in Italian frequently comes out rather jumbled in English. In romance languages, for example, you can change the meaning or type of sentence (or even emphasis on specific words/ideas) by changing around the structure of a sentence. I have gotten comfortable doing this, but I suppose it doesn’t work that way in English…!

      I will say that I was taught as a child that you must first learn the rules [of grammar] to be able to eloquently bend them. I have always been a rabble rouser, so my abuse of commas might just be my version of breaking the law! Haha =]

      But I will definitely take to heart what you have said and try to be 1.) more clear and 2.) less generous with my comma-gifting…! As for your confusion in regards to tense, I’m not sure what part you’re referring to. If you could point it out to me, perhaps I would be able to see. If you are referring to the beginning of the post versus the body, it might have something to do with the fact that I copied and pasted the first few paragraphs from a portion of a post I had written prior that I felt deserved more specialized discussion.

      I appreciate very much the time you have taken to read my words and your comment, your criticism, your advice, and your compliments!


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