So, why is it that us girls are drawn so irrevocably to boys that will, in many respects, never be enough?
It’s an age old question, surely. Generally speaking, most girls mature faster than boys beginning at a younger age. Usually, we are more dedicated to our studies (note that I am speaking from my own experience and I am not making claim that this logic can be applied in every specific situation), pursue more academic or creatively stimulating extracurricular activities rather than, say, sports, and have a deeper comprehension of responsibilities and consequences.
Why then, is it, that we are drawn to boys that can have a negative impact on many aspects of our lives?
I grew up sheltered. I grew up in an environment where school was important, where partying and drugs were extremely taboo, and where taking a road that guaranteed my future success was the talk of the town beginning in early childhood.
I broke bad–
And at 20, I married a bad boy. I was in a foreign country far from the judgmental eyes of my relatives. (Not to say that they didn’t grow fond of my husband when they met him – that is, until he made some major mistakes that my mother is still hard pressed to get past.) I partied (hard), danced at least every weekend (if not every night), exchanged Chopin for electronia and illegal raves, dropped out of uni (ok, there were other circumstances surrounding this situation, but I’ll address that in future), shipped off to Tenerife with my boyfriend of 2 months, got a molossoid dog…basically, I did everything I was raised not to do.
No, I do not claim that my husband made me do these things – or even influenced me. However, his accepting presence did make it easier for me to live with wild abandon. The fact that he loved and supported my craziness without any sort of judgment granted me the freedom I had never felt was possible.
But why do girls go for bad boys?